June 20, 2020 3 min read

Is He The One?

Just like everyone else's, you want to figure out if you've found the person that is the right fit for you. He doesn't need to be a perfect man, but you want to make sure that he is perfect for you. There's nothing wrong with not wanting to settle for less than what you deserve. And all of us need a little help sometimes. So how to know if you're now with the right man? Here are some signs to put in your checklist.

He respects you.

Of course, the first one on the list is about how he is treating you--- emotionally and physically. If he doesn't treat you with respect or you often feel inadequate and offended by his remarks, then those are red flags immediately. Please don't put up with that. You will know if you're with the right person if you feel happy, calm, and at peace when you're with him. And he makes you feel better about yourself. 

He listens to you. 

When a person loves you, he listens to your desires, dreams, and fears. He would ask how your day went because he genuinely has a deep care for you. He would want to know your feelings, what you're thinking, and what is happening in your life. If you're with the right person, you would feel comfortable telling him everything because you trust him. And you know, that he has only your best interest at heart. 

He remembers. 

Not only is he listening, a right man remembers what you're saying to him. He remembers even the smallest details in your stories. Your favorite movie. The name of your dog. Anniversaries and birthdays. A right man remembers the things that are important to you and values your time together.  

The people closest to you like him. 

It is important to consider how your family and friends feel about the person you're with. Since they've been with you since day one, they can see the gaps you might not be seeing or don't want to see. They know you and want the best for you. Therefore, their opinions matter, as well. It can also show how well he can adjust in your world as much as you can adjust to his world.           

He is honest. 

If a man is committed to the relationship, he is willing to have difficult conversations. He has to be honest about his past and will not keep big secrets from you. If a man truly loves you, he will not hurt or betray you. He has complete trust in you as much as you have faith in him. 

He can make you laugh!

How beautiful it is to be with a man that doesn't take himself seriously and is willing to make a fool of himself to make you laugh. When things get heated in the relationship, it's essential to have a sense of humor to help calm things down. You have inside jokes in your relationship and laugh together even when others can't relate. You enjoy being with him. 

He improves you. 

A right man knows when to push you. Life can be difficult at times, but when you have a partner that is willing to lift you, that is something special. You discover and experience new things when you're with him. He allows you to broaden your view and become an instrument for you to change for the better. You both improve each other. 

He makes an effort to make you feel special.

Not all people are inclined to give gifts to make her partner feel treasured. We all have different ways of expressing love. But the right man makes an effort to make you happy and important, such as cooking for you on small occasions or taking care of you when you're sick. The right man makes you feel the one.

One of the most important of it all is that you both hold the same values and goals. You both have the same direction in mind and help each other to reach the destination you both aspire. Because relationships are not all about the butterflies in your stomach, it's a commitment throughout.